unable to get the boat the right way to the wind to bring it up.
Are you familiar with the Australian Navy method of capsize recovery? Works with rig on the windward side and I don't think I've ever failed to get the boat back up using it. I just wish it worked for singlehanders!
First get the boat on her side, if it takes two of you so be it. Get the kite down if up, uncleat all sheets, all the usual stuff. Maybe dump a bit of kicker too.
Then, assuming the rig is up to windward or well on its way one person gets off the board and goes round to the bow.
When other person is ready to lift the rig (should be fairly easy with wind helping) the person at the bow ducks under the jib.
As the boat comes up that person gets to the shrouds and wraps both arms round the shroud. They do NOT attempt to get in the boat.
Boat comes up with one crew member with arms wrapped round shrouds, other maybe gets in (but beware of boom!) or just goes to stern and climbs in over stern.
With a crew member with arms wrapped round shroud the boat won't blow over the other way (unless you have a sail jammed in or something) and they act as a sea anchor and keep the boat roughly hove to so the other person can get in and sort things out.
Finally person in boat helps the one by the shroud in.
Not the fastest method, but I've found it very reliable. The crucial bit is the person on the shrouds just wrapping their arms round the shrouds and not trying to get in. That way you get maximum leverage to stop a 180 and also hold the boat steady and hove to.
Worked out by Bethwaite and the RAN for righting Tasars in 30 knots+.